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Friday, July 22, 2011

Why communication is important

because by communicating we can share:

  • fear
  • hope
  • anger
  • sadness
  • happiness
  • worries
  • pain
  • plans
  • disappointment
  • expectations
  • feelings
thus, it is important in any form of relationship, especially marriage.

Thursday, July 21, 2011

The house where I grew up




Above is the picture of the house where I grew up. The house is still standing on it's original location, but it's been renovated, so it looks different. We lived here for a good eight years, before we move to a better and safer neighbourhood after the 1998 riots.
This house is much smaller than the house we live in now, and we don't have as much as we do now, but this house is the BEST. This is the place where our family is at it's best, quality wise. Not saying that we are not great now, but it was so much better before (maybe I felt this way because I was just a little kid before, so I don't know much about life) It's amazing how living small makes you feel more contented.
So many happy memories happened in this house. We play in the front yard a lot, and on the street as well. We rode our bikes, and catches fishes on the sewer, running around chasing dragon flies, or play with the neighbour on the street. Climbed over the wall to get into our neighbour's house, or play cards and exchanged sailor moon cards while we were sitting on the wall.


Wednesday, July 20, 2011

Lucky me

Husband & I, Mushroom Beach - Nusa Lembongan


After being married and talked to some friends about marriage life, I am very grateful that I am the lucky one to have a husband who give me freedom to be who I am, who love me for being me.
I talked to friends whose husband tell them what to do and what they shouldn't do.They should take care house, wear this kind of clothes, don't wear certain kind of clothes, should cook in certain ways, or very picky that it's hard to cook for them.


As for me, it's been a bliss to have a husband like Bill.
Easy going, a bit moody at times (hardly ever!), good eater, big helper, caring and loving, and importantly, he treated me equally.


We are partner in life. Some friends asked me "Who won more in your relationship?" 
Oh well, marriage is not a battle of winning and losing, instead, everything is what's best for our little family.
They thought we never fight. We've been together for almost 5 years, and yes, we do argue. Sometimes big time. Good thing we never argue for too long.


Also lucky me for having a great mother in law. She can be particular sometimes, and get on my nerves, but she is very kind hearted, and except her standard how cooking and cleaning has to be done in her house, she never tell me what to do and what I shouldn't do. And for her particular standard, I don't need to live with it once we have our own place (which we do now!!). 
Compared to friend's in-laws who can be evil-ish, and crazy nagging and bossy, I am lucky!


As for our family which still consist of the three of us for the time being (Muffin counts!), as much as I wanted little crying so badly, I also feel grateful for whatever we have right now. The opportunity to get to know each other better, to do our school work without baby in mind, to establish friendship and to learn and do more stuffs before little crying(s) is here. We both want to have children, we would love to see our 3/4 Chinese babies,and how Muffin will be a good big brother and play with the babies.


Lucky me





Baby talks

Hanging out with friends who are talking about babies (and breast feeding) all the time is not fun.
I mean, I understand you have children, and your children is super awesome as it is, but do you really have to talk about them ALL the time?? 

Hello?? I am here....I don't have children (yet), and I am happy that you do, and I tried to fit in by saying what I thought or share how I wanted to raise my children, but you look at me as if I'm an idiot, because well, obviously, I don't have baby (just yet!)
Just because I don't have baby doesn't mean I know nothing about children, and I talked because I tried to have some fun too.
So what if I said that I don't want my kids to watch TV? or when I said that I want to cloth diaper my children?? I didn't ask you to do what I wanted to apply to my children. 
We're just different, and obviously you are so selfish so that you cannot stop talking about your children, without thinking that I might get bored with babies stories.

Oh well, not ALL moms are like that. I know some cool mom who talked about make ups, driving, books, and many more stuffs, and they do talk about their baby too. But since they didn't talk about it ALL the TIME makes their baby sounds more awesome compared to those who talk about how smart and great their kids are. That's also because I saw what the baby actually do, instead of just blah-blah-blah stories.





Saturday, July 16, 2011

turbulence

My dear husband left for the States this afternoon. Me-Mom-Dad took him to the airport to send him off.
He texted me a few hours ago when he was transiting in Taipei, Taiwan, the flight was super scary. Crazy turbulence happened several times, it freaks him out (takes a lot of effort to freak him out)
I was scared for him, but happy he is still alive.
If we were together we might have holding hands and say that we love each other.

Hope the Taipei-Seattle flight will be ALL MUCH better.

I love husband, a lot